More often than not, full-grown adults turn into
teenagers when it comes to finding out if someone
likes them. They’ll get friends to bring it up, they’ll
go out in group settings, or use flirty texts, but in a
joking way, just to get away without being
obvious.
It’s time for everyone to grow up. The truth is that
finding out if someone likes you is pretty
straightforward. You don’t have to ask at all, you
can just tell. Hiding your attraction for someone is
pretty much impossible, because even if you don’t
say much of anything, other signs will. The things
you do and say around the person will be done in
careful consideration of their presence, even
subconsciously.
15 signs people give away when they like someone
So how can you tell if someone likes you? Well,
you just have to watch out for a few of these
signs.
#1 Attraction. Even in a group setting, they’ll
gravitate toward you. Think of it this way: when
you go out and there’s a mixture of people present,
you end up hanging out with people you already
know and like, or with new people that you’re
starting to befriend. The same goes for attraction.
You’re going to want to gravitate toward that
person, because you want to spend time with
them.
#2 Nervousness. When they talk to you, they may
seem shy, or awkward. This is not always the case,
but if the person gets shy around you, then it
means you make them nervous, in a good way.
They may be trying too hard not to mess anything
up, or they may be wondering what to say, to get
the conversation going because they want to leave
a lasting impression on you.
#3 Cock-blocking. When someone jokes about
them *or something embarra$$ing they do* around
you, they’ll try to jokingly derail the friend making
the comments. No one wants to be made fun of in
front of someone they’re attracted to, even if it is
just a joke. If someone doesn’t legitimately get
upset, but jokingly tries to stop the conversation
from continuing, then they’re clearly trying to stop
their friend from putting them in an awkward
position in front of you.
#4 Stay in touch . They’ll find a reason to text you,
whether it be a joke, plans, or even just emojis.
When someone likes you, your presence is always
welcome. However, if you’re not around, they’ll
still try to get a hold of you. It could be a simple
joke, a cute smiley face, or a “I’m bored, what are
you doing?” text. Even if it isn’t something
important, they’ll make up a reason just to talk to
you.
#5 A keen interest. Rather than asking simple
questions, like anyone else would, they’ll actually
try to get to know you more. Questions about your
education, goals, accomplishments, interests,
musical taste, and hobbies are a dead giveaway. I
mean, really, who wants to know so much about
you all at once?
#6 The fake date. They will legitimately invite you
out, even if it’s not an actual “date” at first. It could
be them inviting you out to a movie with their
friends, or out to eat at a casual place *not a date
place*. It could even be them meeting you
somewhere, like a local bookstore one of you
loves. None of this cla$$ifies as a date, but this is
them genuinely feeling out whether there’s
chemistry, and working their way to asking you
out.
#7 Goody two shoes. They will always be on their
best behavior around you. This means all the
usual, obnoxious jokes and commentary they may
say on a regular basis will be toned down, if not
completely avoided, around you. It isn’t them lying
about who they are, it’s just a natural response to
someone you’re attracted to. Everyone wants to
shine in a good light. The skeletons will come out
of the closet eventually, more sooner than later.
#8 Split personality. It will seem like they’re more
open around other people, than they are with you.
It sounds contradictory, but if they seem more open
around other people, then they obviously don’t
care what these people think of them, or they
already know these other people. Meanwhile, with
you, things are a bit different. This person may
care what you have to say, because they’re
attracted to you, so they’ll be on their best
behavior.
#9 The little things. They will go out of their way
to do nice things for you, even small things. For
instance, they’ll offer to buy you a drink if you’re
hanging out, or they’ll make you something. Maybe
they’ll help you set up for an event, if you’re
planning one. Even something as simple as holding
a door open can mean so much more coming from
someone who’s attracted to you.
#10 The infatuation stage. This is also the most
reliable they will ever be, so enjoy it. Not to be
negative, but realistically, anyone you date may let
you down. No one is perfect, and sometimes, your
expectations might be a little too high, setting the
stage for disappointment.
It’s a natural thing though, not something to take
to heart. That being said, the time before you date,
to the first 6 months of dating, will be the time in
which you’re both reliable. This person will go out
of their way to be there for you, talk to you, spend
time with you, help you when you need it, etc.
#11 Touchy flirty feely! It may happen right at the
beginning, or build up to it, but at some point,
there will be a ton of flirting. Some people are great
at flirting right from the start, and can pull it off in
a non-creepy, non-sleazy way. Others like to get
to know you first, and build up a hint or two that
you like them back, before they flirt.
Either way, flirting is a dead giveaway that they’ve
at least considered your chemistry together, and
they’re interested to see where it goes. It could be
flirting over text, in person, over the phone, or all
the above.
#12 The impression game. One way or another,
they will try to impress you. This tends to be a
masculine thing, at least that’s what society tells
us, but the truth is, women want to impress guys
too. If someone is telling you about their career
path, and what they’ve accomplished toward
success, then they’re trying to impress you. They
might make a really good drink, or bake a really
nice cake, or even show off their intelligence, and
general knowledge about a variety of topics.
#13 Let the bond begin. You will bond over
common ground. It could be music, books, movies,
video games, or your love of spaghetti and
meatballs. Literally, your common ground can be
anything, as long as you’re both pa$$ionate about
it. If this person is excited over your mutual love
for whatever common ground you have, then
there’s a chance they’re attracted to you.
#14 A keen eye. Say they’re the quiet type, they
will still laugh at your antics, and sit somewhere
close to you at social events. There are some super
shy people out there: introverts, people with low
self-esteem, or even just people who like to
observe others more than they like to get involved.
If the person is attracted to you, but they’re really
quiet, chances are, they’ll make up for it by sitting
somewhere near you, if not right next to you, and
observe your answers to the dynamic at the event.
#15 Listen to the nosey people. Usually, someone
will point this person’s behavior out to you,
wanting to know what your stance is on the whole
situation *they’re being nosey, aren’t they?*.
But then again, sometimes the best way to know if
someone likes you or not is to just wait for
someone else to point it out. It always happens –
people noticing when there’s a special dynamic
forming on the horizon. If they point it out, and
they claim you’re an object of someone’s affection,
then listen to them!
Asking directly may lead to some awkwardness,
but there are other ways to find out if someone
likes you. Something as simple as gravitating
toward you, talking to you, and going out of their
way to do nice things for you, are dead giveaways.
If they actively try to impress you, find common
ground, and be on their best behavior, then you
should already know.
After all, when someone likes you, they can’t hide
it – they’re programmed to do something about it,
even if they are tiny hints.
So the next time you’re wondering if someone likes
you, look out for the signs! If you like them back,
don’t question or ask, just go with the flow of
things, and watch your story develop naturally.
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