“Things That Bring About Failure In Today’s Marriage” [Hottest]

This is lengthy already so I will skip every other
thing and go straight to the points.

1. Emotional Immaturity. Emotionally immature

people are the hardest to deal with. They can be
extremely challenging, because they lack the ability
to see life clearly and accurately, and to deal with
it. They lack the ability to handle anger,
disappointment, guilt, resentment, fear, jealousy, grief, insecurity, and a myriad of
other feelings appropriately.

2. $ex Before Marriage. Research using brain scans

now shows powerful chemicals are released during
$ex that should create a powerful, everlastingbond.
“During $ex with a man, women’s brain secretes oxytocin that causes them to bond emotionally to that man. This chemical is so overwhelming in a
woman’s brain that just a 20-second
hug can
cause a female to become bonded to a male.
Both $exes get addictive doses of the pleasure-
chemical dopamine that works out well for couples
out to create lifelong marriages and stable families
but the bonding, which acts like adhesive tape is
weakened when people tear away power by
breaking off with a $exual partner and moving on
from one to another to another.
This destroys the ability to bond with one’s
spouse permanently because the brain actually
gets molded to not accept that deep emotional
level that’s so important for marriage.

3. Feminism.

These movement have successfully
convinced some ladies that our mothers,
grandmothers and great-grands were like slaves in
their marriage. It has also convinced them that
males are animals and women-beaters so any time
there is a little misunderstanding in a marriage, the
negative instinct that these teaching installed in
the ladies will alert them that the animal is about
to attack and whatever defense mechanism they
have developed will be applied in full force. This is
why many little misunderstandings ends in a fight.

4. Wrong Foundation. Anything build on a wrong
foundation will not last. Most marriages fail not
because the people involved are not willing to
make it work but because it was built on a wrong
foundation. Example of these foundations is “My
Pastor or Prophet Said”. Sometimes people marry
because of a pastor’s vision, prophecy or their own
dream instead of because of love.
Secondly women do meet their their pastors
prophet or whoever they have as a spiritual father
for special prayers, jazz or concoctions that will
help them get a guy. Likewise guys, they meet
these thieves also for jazz or concoction. Such
marriage dies once the jazz wears off

5. Putting Our Wants first Before Our Needs.  We
lack seriously here, We do not take time to know
what our partner really needs. Ofcourse every body
wants to live in large house, ride nice car, go on
vacations etc but first; humans needs to be loved,
cared for, appreciated, respected, listened to, etc.
When you are busy chasing after the wants, your
partner is likely to fall for whoever satisfies his or
her need.

6. Copying Others and Listening To Their Advice.
A
marriage is doomed to fail once we start listening
to the advice of outsiders or copying them. When
you listen to foolish advices on your relationship
from a friend whose sole objective maybe to
destroy your marriage or from a man hater or
woman hater, you will cease to love your partner.
You will start tearing him/her down with you
words. Respect in the marriage will jump the fence,
seeking his/her opinion on an issue becomes
unncesarry because his/her judgment cannot be
trusted by you.

7. Not Setting Priorities Right, Not Researching

Background and Wrong Mindset. People no longer
make working with their spouse to get a good
family their priority.
Secondly some don’t research their family
backgrounds to know about his/her family. They
act based on love for the guy or girl. A family’s
background such as honesty, integrity, modesty
and other good mor*ls should be considered before
tying the knot.
Finally there are some who see marriage as a rest
zone. A never ending party where their partner will
also do things that will please them. They are
always looking for easy comfort. If there is a little
problem, they just quit, no effort to resolve the
issue.
I Know Of Other Things Like, Lies, cheat*ng,
Beating, drunkeness, lack of trust, Marrying just to
be married or seen as a married person etc but
those things are expected when you are running
fast in a wrong lane.